# The Madness of Secondhand Hate by Roy Dawson Earth Angel Master Magical Healer...

# The Madness of Secondhand Hate

People will believe a terrible thing about a stranger without ever meeting them.

Tell them, “That person is crazy,” and they nod. Tell them, “He is dangerous,” and they pull away. Tell them, “She is a liar,” and before long they repeat it as though they stood in the room, saw the event, and wrote the report themselves.

But they did not.

They heard it from somebody.

That is how a lie gets its boots on.

One person says it. Another repeats it. A third adds a detail. By the time it reaches the fifth person, it has grown a mustache, bought a hat, and is calling itself the truth.

Ask them plainly:

“Have you met this person?”

“No.”

“Have you talked with them?”

“No.”

“Have you seen proof?”

“No.”

“Then what do you know?”

And there it is the great answer of the lazy mind:

“Somebody told me.”

People like certainty. It saves them the trouble of thinking. It is easier to accept a story than to ask a question. Easier to join a crowd than to stand alone and say, “I do not know enough to judge.”

But a person who spreads ugly stories about someone they have never met is not passing along wisdom. They are passing along smoke. And smoke can make a man believe there is a fire where there is none.

Sometimes people gossip because they are bored. Sometimes they gossip because they are jealous. Sometimes they gossip because making somebody else look small makes them feel tall for a moment.

And sometimes there is a motive beneath it all: to turn people against someone before they get the chance hate the way you lie full episode to know that person for themselves.

That is why you should be careful with anyone who brings you a dramatic story and demands that you believe it immediately. The louder they insist, the more calmly you should ask for facts.

Not feelings.

Not guesses.

Not “everybody says.”

Facts.

A wise person does not blindly defend strangers. But they do not blindly condemn them either. They leave room for truth. They listen. They watch. They judge people by direct experience, patterns of behavior, and real evidence not by whispers passed from mouth to mouth.

There is humor in how people call someone else crazy while believing a story they cannot prove from a person they do not know. It is like calling a man lost while following directions written on a napkin by a stranger in a bar.

The truth is simple: you do not have to hate who they hate. You do not have to repeat what they repeat. You do not have to step into somebody else’s web of fear, gossip, and suspicion.

Keep your mind your own.

When someone says, “Trust me, I know what they’re really like,” ask yourself one honest question:

**How would they know and what do they gain if I believe them?**

That question can save you from many lies.

Meet people when you can. Listen carefully. Pay attention to actions. Give truth the time it needs. A lie rushes because it is afraid of being examined. Truth can wait.

Never let another person’s bitterness become your belief.

And never hand over your judgment to someone whose only evidence is a story. because that my friend would be crazy.

Thank you for taking the time to read my copyright. May these pages bring light, healing, and hope. – Roy Dawson, Earth Angel, Master Magical Healer, Singer-Songwriter, Poet, Profit.